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For peace in caregiving, let go of resistance

Sometimes the challenges of caregiving can make you want to scream. Maybe the frustrations of dealing with doctors and insurance companies bring it on. At other times, your loved one may be lashing out at you or their situation in denial or anger. We rarely can control the events that trigger such situations, but we always can take ownership and control […]

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Phone-Based Caregiver Support Group Launches Weds., Feb. 4

The Empowered Caregiver Network (ECN) will host a conference call at 8 p.m. EST Wednesday, Feb. 4. These monthly calls form the foundation for an Emotional Support Group for caregivers, whether you are a family member or a hired helper for anyone with chronic dis-ease or serious injury. Please forward this to others performing these essential roles. Register here.

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We’ll be back very shortly; in the meantime…

Please take a spin through the wonderful work here by Coleen Armstrong. The series that ended with the prior post–at least for now–started back in February 2014 and it builds on itself. (If you now how to rebundle a series of posts so people can easily find the beginning and the entire series in WordPress, […]

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One last conversation

Our class reunion committee had always been an active, organized group, who somehow managed to make their every-five-years’ workloads look effortless. This year, our 50th, was no exception; this year we gained a website! The Internet seemed to blow up with composed bios and updates, shared memories, uploaded photos comparing then and now. As seniors, […]

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Pain shaming

There seems to be a movement underway among many healthcare specialists––an insistence on your going under the knife, needle, scalpel or internal prod, yet evidencing no apprehension whatsoever, much less any of what they term “discomfort” before, during or after. Sorry, but I’m not at my best while having an injection into an already inflamed […]

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Walk right in

Once you’ve been a caregiver yourself, you’ll likely give some serious thought to how much you’ll someday want to be on the receiving end. Chances are good that you’ll prefer to skip the entire enterprise. Well, great news: There’s a way to do that. And no, it doesn’t have anything to do with dying young. […]

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Boss lady

At some point during Mom’s last year of life, we kids realized that the only TV station she was watching was Animal Planet. It ran in her living room pretty much around the clock. So we approached her about calling the cable company to cancel as many tiers as possible. She would save, we said, […]

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Just checking

Paula had descended into the caregiving pool gently at first, toes only, when she began stopping by her mom’s house every morning before work. Just to check. Making sure she was awake, dressed, and sipping freshly brewed coffee. Then one day Mom reported being down to dregs––so the next morning, Paula stopped at the drive-thru […]

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The cringe factor

In 1962 my parents decided they could trust us four kids to remain at home alone while they joined friends for dinner. A huge mistake. I was 16, Tim 14, Kevin 11, and Gael 9. Within ten minutes after Mom and Dad drove away, Tim would begin pummeling Kevin, just like that older brother Wayne […]

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OCD for old people

Obsessive-compulsive (OCD) behavior seems to run in our family. Several of us have it in regard to order and neatness, a few with rituals, a few with germs. As a child I used to giggle whenever I watched my grandfather wipe down his plate and his silverware with a paper napkin before eating. Decades later […]

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